Do You Keep Your Blog A Secret?

by Lisa on Thursday: Feb 21, 2013

Something I’ve struggled with since I started this blog around a year and a half ago, was the question of whether to let in my friends and family from outside the blog-world in on this part of my life. The struggle for me dates back to a time in my life when the internet was just gaining popularity. I may be dating myself here, but we didn’t have a computer until I was around 11 or so, and we didn’t get the internet (AOL in those days) until junior high. I was obviously all for it at the time, but my parents (mother especially) were VERY skeptical of every single thing that could possibly be out there.

Then as the years went on, my opinion of the internet evolved while skepticism still reigned supreme with my family. I remember feeling like I had to hide my MySpace profile (remember: olden days) and then my Facebook profile from anyone who possibly knew me outside of school. Then in college, I started livejournaling – the people who I told about that site (outside of other people out in blog-land) were probably in the single digits!

That paranoia has stayed with me to some degree to this day. It’s kind of funny – the less I know a person in real life, the more likely it will be okay with me if they read the blog. And of course, the exception is D, who knows about Lisa the Vegetarian and is very supportive of it.

There is something kind of nice about having a separation between blog-life and personal-life, isn’t there? It creates a buffer and a sort of safety in knowing that whatever I write will stay here. Sometimes I write about somewhat personal things that I don’t necessarily want everyone in my extended family reading.

Lately though, I’ve been wanting to let other people know that this is something I’ve been doing in my spare time. I’ve put a lot of time and work into this little site, and I want people to see it!

It’s a tough call, and I’d love to hear the opinions of some other bloggers out there.

Do you keep your blog a secret? If not, what made you decide to give your URL to your friends and family?

9 Responses to “Do You Keep Your Blog A Secret?”

  1. I had an anonymous blog before and it was great for when I was single and wanted to vent about everyone and everything in my life. After I got married, I decided that if I started a new blog and told people about it, I would be held more accountable and I couldn’t write anything that would get me into trouble (such as bashing my mother-in-law, which…man oh man, sometimes I really want to do). My friends and family know about my blog so I have to be careful about what I write and I wouldn’t put anything out there that I wouldn’t want them to see, which is basically a good rule to work with anyway. You don’t seem to blog about anything or anyone in a negative light so I don’t see why you would share, unless you wouldn’t want to censor yourself. I do miss being uncensored… but I know it’s for the best.

  2. Kara says:

    I still don’t tell many people that I really know – I’m the same way…the less I know someone, the more likely I am to be fine with them reading it! I don’t know why…but as I find my voice and know more about my writing style and what I want to convey, I’m slowly feeling better about letting people find out. It can be really personal and sometimes I’d rather strangers read it for some reason!

  3. jan says:

    Mine is not really a secret, as I use our real names and I’ve posted about it on Facebook once or twice, but I don’t directly tell my family about it, either. I do have a blog for my kids that I have password protected, so I think most of them go there. My mom stalks both blogs though, which cracks me up because she lives here in town.

  4. Good question! Yeah, I am kind of like Jan above. I post here and there to facebook so it is not a secret, but generally since I write a bunch about running and not many of my friends are runners, I do not want to bore them with all the details of my runs. I am more concerned students or people I work with will find me more than friends or family, but oh well if they do. I don’t write about them, I just like to keep personal and professional life separate.

  5. We are vegetarian too =)

    Our blog was a secret for the first few months. After that, we came out of the closet. I don’t mind knowing that people I know may read it now. The truth is…most people really aren’t that interested in personal finance anyway =)

  6. My friends and family know that I have a blog but they just nod and smile then move on. They haven’t visited my site or anything like that. Hopefully after I’ve been blogging for a while they’ll decide to come on over and take a look.

  7. Meagan says:

    I told my parents, sister, husband (of course), two running buddies, and my best friend. Other than that, I don’t think most people I know in “real life” know about my blog. I think I may eventually post the link on facebook, and essentially open the flood gates. I don’t know why I haven’t done this yet. Maybe it’s because my blog is only about 1.5 months old and I’m waiting for it to be more established…whatever that means? I guess I’m just not sure what people would think, even though I’m myself on my blog.

    I think eventually I will share it with everyone, using facebook and email.

  8. I tell everyone about my blog!! Haha in my opinion, the more people who read it the better! But also, a lot of my friends and family in Canada read it while I finish my degree abroad as a means of staying up to date with my life!

  9. No secrets!! I tell everyone…about it. I have a new blog so i want to get followers and get people read and comment. I try and keep it to just about triathlons and treats. I sometimes post about things I am doing in general….which I will write the names of my friends on it. I will put a post on FB every once in a while…if I feel it is a really good one!! 🙂

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