Before I begin today’s post, I want to acknowledge the events in Paris on Friday night. I started hearing about what was happening before I left work that night, and then followed along on social media and the news for a few hours afterward. Thoughts and prayers go out to all who were affected by these horrible events.
Last Saturday was a big day in the wedding planning journey because… I went wedding dress shopping!
To be honest, I was sort of dreading this day because I didn’t think it was going to go well, and I was anticipating a lot of frustration. This is mostly because I’ve never had much luck finding clothes I like of any kind in the past, combined with not having my bridesmaids local to go shopping with me, and topped off by the fact that I’m not nearly at the weight I want to be for trying on dresses.
However, I psyched myself up and reminded myself that this is one of those events that comes along once in a lifetime and is something that I should be having fun with. I was as prepared as I could possibly be going into the day. I had spent the week prior scouring the dress websites and making documents of the dresses I liked so that I could print them and take them with me. I had also been browsing through Brides magazine for a few months (thanks to a gift I had received last Christmas of a subscription).
I had a lot of trouble finding dresses I liked in the magazines. The style I was anticipating going for was a ballgown with sparkle – but no lace, flowers, feathers or tulle. I like the “clean lines” look and the smoother fabrics. The pictures I printed out represented this.
I had made two appointments for the day and my parents were accompanying me, though my mother was the only one who came into the shops. The first shop was the “fancier” of the two and had a ton of dresses and designers available. When I got there, we were assigned a sales associate who would be helping me and she showed me around to the designers that fell within my budget. Right off the bat, I found it difficult to find anything that fit my style profile that I mentioned above, but I did spot a few ballgowns that had at least a little bit of sparkle going on. When I tried them on though, I realized something else that I needed to add to my “must have” list: straps. The strapless look did not work with my body type at all, and I was constantly pulling up on the dresses, worrying that they were showing too much skin.
After about an hour and a half there and 5 or 6 dresses that I tried on, I decided to call it quits at that shop. They were very nice there, but there was just nothing that was working for me. So, off we went to shop #2.
Of course, during the drive between shops, I was getting down about the fact that this might be a failed mission, and that the day would end without a dress. We got to the second shop about a half hour early for our appointment, and after checking in, they told us to just browse around until our assigned associate was available. This was an interesting development because we weren’t given the chance to browse around on our own at the first shop, and it proved to make all the difference.
Right off the bat, I found 3 dresses that fit exactly what I had discovered I wanted while shopping at the first store. We pulled 5 dresses total and had them ready to go before the sales associate even came over to help. This shop was a completely different experience than the first and almost every dress I tried on was a hit.
The third one I tried on in that store ended up being the one. I can’t share too many details about it because D may read this post, but I’m very excited about it, and to make things even better, the dress came in under budget!
In conclusion, I don’t think I had so much to dread in advance of going shopping. I’m a worrier by nature, and I think that was just my anxious side coming out. Overall I’m very happy with the dress I chose, and I can’t wait to see it again when it eventually comes in, especially because I anticipate having lost more of the weight by then. Purchasing a dress really made the whole “I’m getting married” thing feel much more real than it has thus far.
For those who have been married, what did your dress look like?
Anyone else have a hard time shopping for clothes?